Yesterday, or the day before, my brother posted this on Facebook:
“Juliana Walters posted a article titled ’30 questions to ask yourself before you die’ and it got me thinking. I wonder if my hetero counterparts have ever assessed themselves as a potential partner for themselves. I and many of my homo friends have honestly looked at ones self as if looking at a potential mate. (I do this in the mirror often) I look at myself and think “would I date him?” Most of the time I like the guy I see and (I’m not trying to convey narcissism) wish I could get into the mirror. But once in a great while I have disgust and fail to make lasting eye contact with him. This game often leads to a fantasy of how easy life would be if I could pair with my carbon copy. I find this exercise is a good gauge of where I’m at as desirable person. I guess what I’m asking is: Would you be happy and comfortable with someone who resembles your current self? Just a thought.”
Sometimes when I read thoughts like this I can’t get them out of my head. It’s interesting to think about what it would be like to be with me knowing what goes on in my head. I constantly try to maintain an awareness of how I come across to other people. I don’t do this because I want people to like me. I do this because I never want to accidentally offend people or make them feel bad.
I’ve worked with the public in various ways throughout my life, so far, and I’m not a stranger to how awful people can be to each other. Sometimes to a fault, I never want to make people the way some have made me feel.
Ultimately this little thought exercise made me think about the way I come across to the people closest to me. If I look in the mirror and think, “I wouldn’t want to be with me.” Then I better figure out why, for my sake, and the sake of the people who live with me. Thanks for the thought exercise Brad!
Apparently I’m obsessed with cauliflower and it’s versatility. Since the beginning of Spring I’ve crossed over into this healthy living thing that I can’t seem to shake cause I feel good and I’m having a lot of fun trying to make super healthy and low calorie food taste fabulous! There are so many amazing healthy blogs out there I feel like such a novice poser. But, I have to start somewhere.
I got my inspiration for my tots from these Rosemary Parmesan fries we had at a restaurant in Boise,Idaho called FORK and from these Buffalo Cauli-Tots from Cupcakes & Kale Chips.
Note: These tots don’t taste like Tater Tots! They taste like Cauliflower Tots because they are made out of cauliflower.